Over Parent Your Children
One of the toughest but most fulfilling jobs in the world is raising a child. Despite this feeling of fulfillment, you can hardly tell when you are going overboard in parenting your child. There are some signs to look out for when parenting that shows if you are over-parenting your child.
Whenever you observe that you are engaged in any of the following signs, know that you are either crossing the line or you have crossed the line of good parenting.
- Your child lies often
There are times a child would stretch the truth, this, of course, is normal with kids. But research has it that when you are too harsh with your child or too strict, they learn to be good liars. This occurs because the child would want to avoid punishment.
- Your child has more restriction than most children
This is simple, if you look around and find out that you are the strictest parent amongst other parents, then know that you might be headed to the valley of overparenting.
- Your patience for silliness is minimal
You should always come to grasp with the fact that kids love ridiculous jokes and silly games sometimes. If you observe that most of the time you are not patient with them, then you have crossed boundaries.
- You have a long list of regulations and rules
Rules are good, but it becomes bad when it is excessive and overburdening. This could be harmful to your child. Try as much as possible to keep your rules simple and easy to follow.
- You nag too much
Nagging could prevent your child from taking responsibility for their own behavior. A sign of bad parenting is when you are always nagging your child on when to do his/her homework, play the piano, this won’t allow him/her to do things on his/her own.
Consequences of overparenting your children
Some negative effects experienced by children under the umbrella of overparenting are highlighted below.
- Nightmares
- Trouble in concentrating and completing homework and school work.
- Increased aggression in the child.
